Ever since I was in my early teens, I’ve had a very clear picture in my mind of what my ideal man looks like. He is tall, dark and handsome, clean shaven with twinkly eyes. In fact, he was Captain Scarlet. Yes, a puppet but in my humble opinion, the handsomest puppet Gerry Anderson ever created (and he created quite a few lookers!). Accepting the limitations of a very small puppet boyfriend (though there are benefits too), a 6ft human version of this fine specimen would do very nicely thank you.
By the way, the image is from gerryanderson.wikia.com which is a mine of information if you want to know more about this gorgeous creature and his colleagues.
Over the next couple of decades, I sought and occasionally found, boyfriends who came close to this specification. However, the relationships didn’t last for various reasons and the men were far from indestructible! But I kept looking until at the age of 30, I finally met the man of my dreams… Yep that’s right. I fell in love with a 5ft 10 ginger with beard.
Of course I did! Until then, I had been distracted by the packaging when all the time I should have looking for what was really important to me; intelligence, a good sense of humour and someone who brought out the best in me. More importantly, we shared the same values around money, family and career. We encouraged each other in our career development which came to include living in separate countries for two years, independently giving up salaries to go contracting and setting up our own businesses.
Do you see where I am going with this? When we look for a new role or debate a promotion, it is easy to allow our heads to be turned by; the salary, the benefits, the prestige, a car parking space, feeling wanted etc. What we really need to know is this:
- Will the role draw on the best of me?
- Will I be majoring on the stuff I am really good at, or want to develop in, or is it going to rely on me doing stuff I try to avoid?
- Who will I be working with? What are they like?
- Will I feel valued?
- What is the company culture and structure like? Does it fit with me and my values?
- Where will I be able to go from here?
Earning a living is a fact of life for most of us so wouldn’t it be great if you love what you do?
“Never continue in a job you don’t enjoy. If you’re happy in what you’re doing, you’ll like yourself, you’ll have inner peace. And if you have that, along with physical health, you will have had more success than you could possibly have imagined”. – Johnny Carson
Having moved from perm employee to contractor to now a coach with my own business, I am in the third phase of my career…and my happiest. Through it all I have been lucky enough to have this wonderful partner to support me every step of the way. After a great deal of trial and error (so many frogs to kiss both in work and romance) I found my ideal man and a role that I love too. Note that matching outfits are optional!
Happy Valentines Day everyone! Now go find the ideal role for you.
The Change Agent helps people to find their best self and get it working for them. If you are out of love with your job or business, looking for a direction or feeling stuck, give her a call on 07990 514537 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.